How many times have you been in a situation that has ended sour? Maybe it was a relationship, a friendship, a job, or even family. Sometimes you get to know why, but sometimes you don’t.
In the past when I didn’t have the answers that I thought I deserved, I’d get mad. I’d stew about and overthink it to death. How dare they not only hurt me but deny me closure.
Loss in any form hurts. Even when it’s a healthy loss, there is initial hurt. You mourn the good and somehow forget the bad. Why can’t we ever remember the bad?
So many of us are caught up on getting closure, that we delay healing. Let’s look at this from a different perspective. Remember the blog I wrote about not accepting things that we didn’t want? This is a perfect example.
Why do we freely give the ability for others to hurt us? It’s like we actually go as far as sending a formal invitation. “Hey, I was thinking, since you hurt me I’d really like to wait around until you can explain your reasoning so I can get closure. Of course take your time, I’ll be waiting when you are good and ready.”
We need to recognize and stop this behavior. There are going to be instances where closure is never going to happen. There will “what ifs” and “why nots” galore. We need to accept that not everyone is meant for us. Not every person is healthy and not every relationship was meant to last.
Once you’ve realized and accepted that let’s close the door. Healing is easier when we aren’t heating the outside.
This blog is dedicated to all of the bad asses out there. Your worth was never tied to anyone or anything. You have the strength to shut the door, you just have to believe.
Shut the door, we aren’t heating the outside!